What Happened to You Doesn't Have to Define You
You've been carrying this a long time. Maybe you've tried explaining it and couldn't find the words. Maybe you've gotten pretty good at pushing it down — until you can't anymore. I help adults in Indianapolis and across Indiana start understanding their own story, so they can finally stop being controlled by it.
IFS-trained · In-person in Brownsburg (just west of Indianapolis) + telehealth statewide
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You might not call it "trauma." A lot of people don't.
They call it always feeling like something's off. Or overreacting to things that shouldn't be a big deal. Or why can't I just let it go already? There's a version of you that existed before — before the thing that happened, before you learned it wasn't okay to need things. Here's what I see a lot with the people I work with:
Running on fumes
You're managing well on the outside, but inside you're running on empty — and have been for longer than you'd admit.
Set off, then self-critical
Something small sets you off — then you spend days being hard on yourself about it.
Not trusting your own feelings
Somewhere along the way, you learned not to — and that lesson has stuck.
Relationships feel complicated
Too close, too distant, never quite right — in a way you can't fully put into words.
It goes quiet when you look at it
You know your past is affecting you, but every time you try to look directly, something in you goes very still.
None of that means you're broken.
It means you adapted. You found a way through. And now — when you're ready — we get to figure out what's underneath.
Trauma is patient. It doesn't go away just because years have passed or because you've built a life that looks okay from the outside. It shows up as anxiety you can't pin down, relationships that hit the same wall, a critical inner voice — until it starts to feel like just who you are. That's the part that breaks my heart a little. The problem isn't you. The problem is the problem — and problems can be worked with.
We get curious about your parts — instead of at war with them.
We're all made of parts
That anxious voice that won't shut up? A part. The one that goes numb when things get hard? A part too. And the one holding the most painful memories, trying to protect you — that one's been working overtime for years.
The thing IFS gets right is that none of those parts are the enemy. Every part showed up for a reason. Our job is to understand what each one has been trying to do — and help your whole system feel a little less like it's at war with itself.
Inner-child & attachment work
Attachment wounds often live in the younger version of you — in early lessons about whether you were worthy of love and whether people could be counted on. We do that work gently. You're always in the driver's seat.
I also bring in ACT and CBT when they're a good fit — sometimes you need practical tools for the present, and sometimes you need to go back and do the deeper excavation. Usually it's some of both.
I'm Tiffanie — and I'm here to help you write it with a little more intention.
I'm Tiffanie Desmangles, LCSW, and I've spent 25 years in mental health — community mental health, palliative care, training and supervision, and for the last several years, private practice. I came to IFS because I kept seeing clients who understood, intellectually, why they struggled — but understanding alone wasn't moving anything. IFS was the tool that actually started to shift things. I'm trained in IFS alongside CBT and ACT.
I believe the problem is the problem — you're not the problem. That's a pretty radical reframe for people who've spent years convinced something is fundamentally wrong with them. My job is to be the guide, not the authority on your story. You are the author of that. I work best with people who are curious, open-minded, sensitive, creative, maybe a little sassy — people who suspect there's more to them than the hard thing they've been carrying.
No checklist. Just a real conversation about you.
A note: I can't promise specific outcomes, and anyone who does should give you pause. What I can promise is that I show up fully, I take this work seriously, and I'm not going to let you get lost in it.
Three quiet steps
Reach out and tell me a little
Send a message through the site. I'll follow up directly — no automated systems, just me — and we'll set up a time to connect.
Come in and see how it feels
Your first session is mostly a conversation. We get to know each other, I learn what you're carrying, and together we start to map a direction.
Start writing a different chapter
Over time we work with your parts, revisit old wounds with new eyes, and build a relationship with yourself that actually feels like one. You can rewrite your story.
Frequently asked
I'm not sure what happened to me "counts" as trauma. Should I still reach out? +
Yes — and this question itself is worth a conversation. Trauma isn't just big, catastrophic events. It can come from chronic experiences too: not being seen, emotional neglect, growing up in an unpredictable home, relationships where you didn't feel secure. If something from your past is affecting how you function today, it counts. We don't need a label to get started.
What is IFS, exactly? Is it different from regular talk therapy? +
IFS — Internal Family Systems — is a framework developed by Dr. Richard Schwartz, and yes, it's different. Instead of just processing events or changing thoughts on the surface, IFS works with the different parts of you: the protectors, the critics, the younger wounded parts. The goal is a whole internal system that feels less fragmented and more at peace. It tends to be slower and deeper than CBT, and a lot of people find it surprisingly validating — because it starts from the premise that no part of you is bad.
How long does trauma therapy take? +
It depends on the person and what they're working through. Some people experience meaningful shifts relatively quickly; deeper attachment work or complex trauma typically takes longer. I don't believe in keeping people in therapy longer than they need — and I don't believe in rushing work that needs time. We'll check in regularly on how things are going and adjust as we go.
I've tried therapy before and didn't get much out of it. What makes this different? +
That's actually one of the most useful things to bring into an intake conversation. I want to know what didn't work, because that tells me a lot. A lot of people who felt stuck were doing good-faith work with an approach that wasn't quite right for what they were dealing with. IFS in particular tends to reach things that talk-based or purely cognitive approaches don't touch. I won't promise this is different — but I'll be honest about whether I think I'm the right fit.
Do you work with people across Indiana, or only in Indianapolis? +
Both. I see clients in person at my office in Brownsburg (just west of Indianapolis), and I offer telehealth to anyone in Indiana. If you're outside the Indy metro, telehealth is a completely viable option for this kind of work.
How do I get started — is there an online booking portal? +
No portal — you just reach out through the contact form on this site, and I follow up directly. I like it that way. It means you're not booking with a bot; you're starting a conversation with me.
You've carried this long enough
The guilt, the self-doubt, the feeling that something's just slightly wrong — none of that has to be permanent. If any part of this page felt like it was written for you, I'd love to hear from you. No pressure, no commitment — just a conversation to see if this might be the right fit.
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